90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days star Timothy Malcolm is addressing rumors he’s gay or transgender given his hesitation to sleep with girlfriend Jeniffer Tarazona during his trip to Colombia.
90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days viewers watched Jeniffer, a 25-year-old from Bucaramanga, Colombia, accuse Tim, a 38-year-old from Charlotte, NC, of being too feminine because his nails were painted and he didn’t like to get his hands dirty.
And because Tim seemed reluctant to have sex with her, Jeniffer flat out asked Tim if he’s gay during a recent episode.
“Jeniffer’s not the only one that’s said that. Let’s be honest,” Tim told Entertainment Tonight in an interview on Tuesday about his sexuality being questioned.
“There’s a lot of people that have speculated that there’s all kinds of issues going on… It’s an invigorating day as a man when you wake up and you’re no longer controlled by your penis. That wasn’t on my agenda.”
Tim shut down rumors about his gender identity, claiming he just wasn’t after physical intimacy.
“I’m almost 40 years old. I want to be in love. I know sex is an important part of love, but it’s not everything like it used to be,” Timothy explained.
“My biggest goal was just building a foundation that I thought would be able to last because I don’t want to be divorced. I’ve waited this long to get married. I’ve never been married.”
Tim elaborated, “I think that’s strange of society to think if a man says no then he’s gay. If a woman says no, it’s fine. But it’s like the double standard that society has. So, I just kind of laugh about it.”
“I do have some feminine traits,” he reasoned. “The gay thing was just kind of out of left field for me.”
Tim also has an apparent love for fashion and self-grooming. He enjoys facials, spa days, and eye pads designed to boost collagen and remove puffiness.
But Tim insisted he was not born a woman and online rumors he that he is transgender are “laughable.”
“The episode that just aired, you saw me get into a hot tub with Jeniffer, and I saw online that people were literally screenshotting it and looking for scars where I had my ‘breasts’ removed. It comes with the territory,” Tim shared with ET.
“You’re going to get people that just have to come up with these outlandish ideas. But I think it’s just very odd for a lot of women to see a man that’s not wooed by a beautiful woman,” he continued.
“That is something that is unique about me. I’ve dated a lot of pretty girls, and they just don’t really — it doesn’t do it for me as much as it used to.”
Tim said he needs more in a relationship than just attraction and sexual chemistry.
“If I don’t like something, I’m going to make sure I’m happy and in a good place before I move to that level, because once you have sex, the dynamic of the relationship absolutely changes,” he noted to ET.
Tim further clarified, “I’m not transgender. I think it’s cool for the people that want to do that if that’s what you want to do with your life, but that’s not me.”
Tim joked about how he’s at least got people talking.
“I don’t feel like I’ve ever had a problem finding a girlfriend. I am who I am… I had very low self-esteem as a child. I was bullied a lot as a child. We didn’t have money,” he told ET.
“My mom had three boys and was a secretary, so I’ve come a long way. I started my own business and worked my way up,” Tim revealed.
Tim said he started buying nice clothes and working on his appearance once he could afford to, resulting in his current confidence.
“I wanted to be filmed being myself, and I think that was accomplished. What you see is me. I may be eccentric, I may be weirder than some guys that are out there, but that’s me… If you like it, you do. If you don’t, then you don’t,” Tim stated.
90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days’ third-season finale will air Sunday, October 20 at 8PM ET/PT on TLC.